There have been times over the recent past where tensions have been fraught and horrible things have been said and done, causing a deeply-rooted unhappiness in my life. At the time, it’s difficult to see through the mist but now I see that it is only the difference between people and personalities that have caused this. I’m choosing to live a happy life that’s full of joy and love and fun.
I could be criticised for not reaching out to everyone I care for more frequently – I rarely get in touch with my family and friends. Don’t get me wrong, I speak to them occasionally; usually when there’s something being organised; but I’m not constantly talking to people. I can’t constantly talk to people, you see, as my brain is just too tired after a day at work constantly talking to people and then constantly talking to the kids and hubs before and after afore-mentioned work, 5 days a week. I need some peace and quiet time to collect my thoughts, relax and not be bothered.
That doesn’t mean that I don’t care – of course I care about my family and friends – but it does mean that I need this time to relax for my own self-care.
NB: I’ll probably talk about self-care in another post, but for now let’s continue on this ‘living a happy life’ vein.
I am choosing to live a happy life and not get caught up in the politics around “he said”, “she said” crap that goes on. Rather than slating another person, or questioning their behaviour, I shrug my shoulders and in the words of Elsa, let it go. It’s their decision and they’re responsible for their own actions and words – I am not, and I refuse to bring myself down unnecessarily.
Since I’ve started doing this, I’ve noticed that I’m a lot less anxious and a lot happier. My kids are happier and my family unit is happier. I have better relationships with my extended family and friends. This mindfulness allows me to see situations for what they really are and if they don’t really involve me, then why should I get concerned about it?