I’m a working mum. Monday to Friday, 8:30-4:30. Usually. Although there are days where I’m required to work quite late to attend evening meetings, or go in super early to meet a deadline.
As well as working full time, I run this blog. I also teach a tap dance class for adults. And because that’s clearly not enough, I also rehearse for an amateur dramatics musical 3 nights a week. Then there’s the majority of the housework to do and, of course, family time.
Lately, I’ve been so busy that I’ve spent barely any time with O. And he’s upset about it. And I feel guilty as sin. Cue, Guilty Mum Syndrome.
The week before last, I hadn’t been too well, laid up in bed with a fluey virus. So I hadn’t been at work. I hadn’t been at rehearsal or teaching folk to dance. I’d been at home all week suffering this virus and a bit of cabin fever. Then back to work this week and we’ve had a huge deadline at work of such short notice I ended up working 7 hours of overtime on top of my usual as well as my extra activities.
O goes to preschool every day now and spends time with his Granda 4 afternoons a week and stays at preschool a full day on Fridays. He loves preschool and the structure of lessons, being taught properly like he will be in school. But the last few weeks, he’s started to not want to get ready in the morning and saying he doesn’t want to go.
I know deep down this is because I’m not around so much and he just wants to see his mummy and daddy. Thankfully the show goes on this week so will be over soon. And I’m planning to do less on the weekends to spend more quality time with O.
It’s so hard to find a balance between work and life. But also between my life and my family life. Before O, I was busy every night of the week and had a bar job at the weekends. I’m not one to do things by halves! But things have got to change when you have kiddies.
How do you strike the right balance? Or, like me, don’t you?