Toddler turned Teenager

O is a well-mannered and happy 3 year old boy.  He loves to play with his family and friends.  He enjoys walking in the woods, playing pooh sticks and jumping in muddy puddles.  He loves painting, sticking, playing with Playdoh and baking.  He also likes swimming, soft play and playing with toy cars and trains.

He goes to pre-school at his nursery, where he loves to play and learn with his friends.  He tries his best with writing, counting, shapes and colours.  But…
He’s 3 going on 13.
Or at least, so it seems.
He’s been throwing tantrums like no other I’ve experienced…  If he doesn’t get his own way, he’ll storm out of the room in a mincing fashion and attempt to slam the door behind him.  It’s quite difficult not to laugh at his wiggling bum and swinging arms but I try my best to maintain composure!  
He has also taken to saying things like “I’m going to bed ON MY OWN” and “I’m playing trains ON MY OWN”.  He quite obviously wants his independence, but this stroppy attitude is really doing my chuff in…
I’m hoping these teenager-style mood swings become fewer and farther between.  Is it something that 3 year olds normally experience?  I have vague recollections of my niece behaving in a similar way at this age.  She used to attempt to slam a door and try again if it didn’t bang loudly!

I’m not quite sure with how to deal with this – do I leave him to get on with his paddy and pretend it didn’t happen when he comes round?  Or do I use another technique?

9 thoughts on “Toddler turned Teenager

  1. LP is officially a ‘three-nager’. In other words – she can be an absolute cow at times! I’m hoping it doesn’t last long too x

  2. Look into toddler calm. There’s a scientific, physiological (and proven) reason for tantrums. Think how you feel during a tantrum then how O may feel during one…very very similar feelings except ours as adults tend to be a bit more complex (toddlers aren’t capable of feeling embarrassed as we may be when a tantrum ensues in public) ignoring them tends to make them “shut down” rather than handle it. They need to be shown they are not alone when they’re having these big feelings and that its ok to have them. Imagine how you would feel if you had a rubbish day at work, came home to vent and your partner ignored you and told you to discuss it when you’d calmed down. You’d be pretty peeved! Honestly, look up toddler calm it’s really really informative.

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